Somewhere along the way, many of us started believing that if we’ve been through something painful, we must be damaged because of it. That we’re broken, messy, and in need of fixing before we can truly be “okay.”

But here’s the thing: you are not a home in need of renovation.

You are not a project.

You are a human being who has lived, who has felt, who has endured. And all of those experiences, the good, the hard, and the ones that still make your chest tighten are part of your story.

It is NOT proof that something is wrong with you.

Trauma has a sneaky way of convincing us otherwise. When something overwhelming happens, our bodies do exactly what they’re designed to do: they protect us.

They store that experience away so we can survive the moment. But later, when life slows down, those stored pieces can show up as anxiety, tension, emotional numbing, or a sense of disconnection.

It can feel like we’re broken when really, we’re just carrying things that haven’t had a chance to move through yet.

That’s what trauma is, not a sign of weakness or defectiveness, but a normal human response to an emotinal experience. The body simply hasn’t caught up to the understanding that it’s SAFE now.

The tricky part is, when we believe we’re broken, we start to live like we are….

We hustle to “fix” ourselves, diving into every self-help strategy we can find.

We analyze, we overthink, we try our hardest to make these feelings go away, and yet, something still feels stuck.

That’s because healing doesn’t come from intellectual understanding alone. It comes from helping the body feel what the mind already knows: you made it through. You’re safe now.

This is where somatic work can be so powerful. Instead of trying to fix what’s “wrong,” it helps you tune into what’s already right, your body’s own knowledge, your innate capacity to heal, your ability to regulate and feel grounded again.

Somatic therapy and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) help the body process trauma on a deeper level.

In EMDR, we focus on one memory at a time, helping the brain and body reprocess it so it no longer feels so charged.

In somatic work, we build awareness of sensations, movements, and impulses in the body, allowing those old protective responses to complete themselves safely and gently.

Together, these approaches don’t “fix” you because there’s nothing broken to fix. They simply help release what’s been stuck, creating more space for calm, clarity, and connection.

Healing from trauma isn’t about becoming a different person. It’s about remembering who you were before the world told you that you had to be anyone else. It’s about coming home to yourself, the you who is already whole, already worthy, already enough.

And let’s be honest: this isn’t easy work.

It’s vulnerable.

It’s messy.

Sometimes it’s two steps forward and one step back. But it’s also deeply human and profoundly brave.

Every small moment of awareness, every gentle breath you take when your body wants to tense up, that’s healing. It might not look glamorous, but it’s real and it’s powerful.

So, if you’ve been believing that you’re broken, I want to offer you a gentle reframe: maybe you’re just unfinished in your healing. Maybe your body and heart are still catching up to the truth that you were never too much, never too sensitive, never beyond repair.

You don’t need to be fixed. You just need a safe space to land, to feel what’s been waiting to be felt, to move what’s been held for too long, and to remember that healing doesn’t mean erasing your story. It means integrating it in a way that lets you live freely again.

You are whole. You are human. And you are already enough.

If this resonates with you and you’re curious about how somatic therapy or EMDR might help you reconnect with that wholeness, I’d love to support you in that journey.

You can reach out for a free consultation or learn more about how I work with women by leaving a comment below.

With warmth and compassion,