Why you can’t just get over it!

It’s an unhelpful statement, it really is…

On the flip side of that coin, how many times have you found yourself saying this statement to someone else.

It likely has come out in a heated moment or disagreement. I know I have surely said it once or twice….

But here is the thing about statements like this, they aren’t helpful for the person receiving them on the other end.

Healing isn’t that simple, it’s not a garden hose, you can’t just turn it off and on willy nilly.

If it were that easy everyone would do it!

“Just get over it” minimizes the experiences of the other person, it makes them feel as though what they have gone through is just “nothing.”

And that is just damaging….

The work I do around my clients isn’t around “getting over it” it’s about feeling safe to navigate the painful emotions and understand them.

Together, we get you to a place where you’re ready to start letting go, slowly but surely.

It’s a process, one that can’t be rushed.

I would encourage you to offer other sentiments in place of encouraging them to “get over it.”

“I want to support you in letting go, how can I help?”

“I can see that you’re hurting, do you want to talk about what’s going on?”

“What do you need from me? How can I be there for you?”

This is how you create safety for another person, by seeing them, hearing them, and recognizing their experience. Got questions?

Please feel free to reach out, I would love to share my wisdom with you.

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